[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I think she feels like her biological mother abandoned her so she doesn't want anything to do with her which I think is a little unfair considering when my friend would have been born, Ireland was totally under the catholic Churches control and a young , single girl would have had literally no other option but to give up their baby, alot of times they were taken against their will. But of course it has to be her choice. It's not that I think she should find her mother, I just think she should forgive her and understand that she probably had no other choice back then

Yea, i'm Irish Catholic too, and was adopted through a catholic charities adoption agency. There's a lot of baggage in catholic families, because of the shame of being a young unwed mother, and also they don't believe in abortion.

but really it's usually just a case a young mother wanted a better life for her child. not that she doesn't want her child, but she is just doing what she believes is best even though it is painful for her.

In my case i am grateful to my biological mom for giving me to a loving family. that's always what my parents told me, my mom really wanted me, but she made a great sacrifice to give me a better life. and it was the truth. I am grateful to both my biological mother and my adoptive parents.