[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Yeah I absolutely agree with that. It must be heart breaking for a mother to give her baby up for adoption and I believe there are very few women who could carry a baby in them for 9 months and not feel devastated to have to give that baby away

I think it's very wrong for an adoptive family to tell their kids that their mom didn't want them. i'm so glad my parents never said something like that. I think some adoptive families tell their kids "your mom didn't want you" so you should be grateful that WE adopted you. i think that is very ****ed up and toxic.

My adoptive parents always said the exact opposite. My Mom and Dad always said to me that my biological mom really loved me, but because she was only 15 she knew she couldn't provide for me, so she trusted them to love me because she knew that they would give me a good home, and they always told me if i ever decide to find her it wouldn't bother them at all, because they will always love me as a son. They always said that i was a gift to them from my mother. They always made it seem like i was loved by both my biological family and my adoptive family.

It actually makes me cry to think about how awesome my parents were. They were always honest about my adoption and always said the only thing they care about is my happiness, and that they were grateful to get to adopt me, they never ever made me feel like i should be grateful to have been adopted by them.

I think when it comes to adoption, the adoptive parents should never speak badly about someone's biological mom.