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Originally Posted by TomC

My friends don't seem to like how he's being - it's just too fickle. I mean I'm just going to try and stand back now, because clearly we're just coming at it from angles which are too different for it to really work, at the moment at least. It's gotten to the stage where I think it's become quite unhealthy - my mood literally has depended for about 10 days now on how things are going with him. Idk why I latched so hard on to him - I mean I do like him, but I am just to attached - I literally cried in private this morning after my friends told me I should leave it. (Really strange behaviour I know).

Aww, hon
Love, the feelings surrounding love, the depth of love.... these things are all uncontrollable by us, and some times we just have to ride the waves of them out. Sometimes our feelings get really deep really fast in a relationship, despite our better judgement... that doesn't make them not real.... but you do have to consider why that is? Is it him, and him and you together making you feel so attached? Or is it your own feelings about love and a relationship at this time? I know you think you have put in a lot of time and emotion towards this guy....but it is merely a drop in the bucket of how long it takes to get to know someone, and know if they are right for you, and with you. So give it more time if you feel there is something there, but don't let it be your only source of happiness in life. Emotional independence is sexy in a partner. Codependency tends to send people in the other direction.