[Withano]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

See that last paragraph is why its not better than being cheated on with another girl cos in your eyes the only time it was bad was when he cheated on a guy so the other relationships werent "real" but they would have been for the girls so thats an extra hurt to deal with

Yeh.. I presumed they werent really meaningful relationships.. like hes gay.. how far can he literally go with a girl? But perhaps im wrong, maybe they were meaningful. Guess id need more info.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Withano

Yeh.. I presumed they werent really meaningful relationships.. like hes gay.. how far can he literally go with a girl? But perhaps im wrong, maybe they were meaningful. Guess id need more info.

people have been married for years and had kids and the whole lot and were gay though

Obviously that probably doesn't apply here as Raph is pretty young I'm sure that his relationships weren't that serious, i was more replying generally to whether it's better if your partner cheats with a man or woman.

Anyway either way it's not nice to be cheated on, just because a person turns out to be gay doesn't make it feel any better for the cheated on person

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

people have been married for years and had kids and the whole lot and were gay though

Obviously that probably doesn't apply here as Raph is pretty young I'm sure that his relationships weren't that serious, i was more replying generally to whether it's better if your partner cheats with a man or woman.

Anyway either way it's not nice to be cheated on, just because a person turns out to be gay doesn't make it feel any better for the cheated on person

Pretty much agree with all of this. I personally would probably react worse if the person who cheated on me was gay, I would feel that I should have known, feel guilty that they have been trying to live a lie and then cope with the fact they have cheated too.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

Pretty much agree with all of this. I personally would probably react worse if the person who cheated on me was gay, I would feel that I should have known, feel guilty that they have been trying to live a lie and then cope with the fact they have cheated too.

Yeah same here.

[Beso]

What a rather despicable character..he has no chance.

[jet]

I must say I wasn't expecting this reaction from a lot of people to Raph (who I don't know at all) being in the house. My thoughts were that though we will criticise him if he behaves badly, he is still sort of 'family' and by and large we'll be in his corner.
I'm finding the reaction towards him pretty vicious...I wonder if a little bit of jealousy is in play, not just that he got into the house, but also that he had the balls to do it...

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by jet

I must say I wasn't expecting this reaction from a lot of people to Raph (who I don't know at all) being in the house. My thoughts were that though we will criticise him if he behaves badly, he is still sort of 'family' and by and large we'll be in his corner.
I'm finding the reaction towards him pretty vicious...I wonder if a little bit of jealousy is in play, not just that he got into the house, but also that he had the balls to do it...

[Cherie]

[QUOTE=jet;9343209]I must say I wasn't expecting this reaction from a lot of people to Raph (who I don't know at all) being in the house. My thoughts were that though we will criticise him if he behaves badly, he is still sort of 'family' and by and large we'll be in his corner.
I'm finding the reaction towards him pretty vicious...I wonder if a little bit of jealousy is in play, not just that he got into the house, but also that he had the balls to do it...[/QUOTE]

[Jordan.]

Originally Posted by jet

I must say I wasn't expecting this reaction from a lot of people to Raph (who I don't know at all) being in the house. My thoughts were that though we will criticise him if he behaves badly, he is still sort of 'family' and by and large we'll be in his corner.
I'm finding the reaction towards him pretty vicious...I wonder if a little bit of jealousy is in play, not just that he got into the house, but also that he had the balls to do it...

A tad tragic to defend someone for cheating and be generally bias just because you post on the same website as them

[Withano]

Originally Posted by jet

I must say I wasn't expecting this reaction from a lot of people to Raph (who I don't know at all) being in the house. My thoughts were that though we will criticise him if he behaves badly, he is still sort of 'family' and by and large we'll be in his corner.
I'm finding the reaction towards him pretty vicious...I wonder if a little bit of jealousy is in play, not just that he got into the house, but also that he had the balls to do it...

I agree actually. This isnt a normal reaction at all

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by jet

I must say I wasn't expecting this reaction from a lot of people to Raph (who I don't know at all) being in the house. My thoughts were that though we will criticise him if he behaves badly, he is still sort of 'family' and by and large we'll be in his corner.
I'm finding the reaction towards him pretty vicious...I wonder if a little bit of jealousy is in play, not just that he got into the house, but also that he had the balls to do it...

Tbf. What I'm seeing is a fairly normal reaction to a BB housemate. As normal as fandom can get anyway.

The vicious part seems to be forum members against each other on here.