[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

Well I love my husband but a few years ago someone said something that I didn’t want him to hear because it wasn’t a good time for him....she didn’t tell him and I never told him what she was about to tell him...that’s called looking out for someone you love and not giving them unnecessary angst...
...that’s my kind of love for someone. However if you think love is not giving a **** about causing your partner unnecessary trauma...then good for you.

How would your husband have felt though if she had told him and then told him you knew all about it? Surely that would seem like more of a blow? For me, if I had to hear something that I was not going to like, I would prefer to hear it from someone I loved and who loved me back rather than anyone else.