[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

wow that's a very harsh thing to say Rustic, no one is saying what you did was wrong, your relationship is your relationship, I have no doubt you know best but accusing others of basically trying to rub salt in their partners wounds because they think honesty works best for THEIR relationship is out of line imo

I find it quite difficult to understand if Im honest. You are all saying if your partner was not in a good place and something came to your attention that would put them in a worse place...you would do it because honesty is the best policy....there are times when Honesty isnt the best policy. Depending what it is it can be discussed at a later date when someone is in a better place to deal with it...if the problem is diffused and goes away no one gets hurt and is none the wiser.
Each to their own I guess...