[user104658]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

I find it quite difficult to understand if Im honest. You are all saying if your partner was not in a good place and something came to your attention that would put them in a worse place...you would do it because honesty is the best policy....there are times when Honesty isnt the best policy. Depending what it is it can be discussed at a later date when someone is in a better place to deal with it...if the problem is diffused and goes away no one gets hurt and is none the wiser.

Each to their own I guess...

For me personally, it's because I know my wife is very (very) on the ball and there is a HIGH likelihood she would find out "whatever it is" anyway, and if she did find out and then found out that I already knew, that would cause much more harm than knowing in the first place.