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Originally Posted by Maru

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss. I too lost someone dear recently and we are coming up on the anniversary so can empathize with what you are experiencing. The one takeaway from your post is that it seems to have brought you and your father closer. I thought that was a small blessing in the chaos. Before I lost my loved one who also needed daily care, I noticed later on that the toll of grief can actually began much sooner before the passing. It's easy to think about the feelings that occur in the aftermath, but as a primary support system, we may suffer some grief as well tending to other's significant daily needs. Especially when important goals aren't being met surrounding QoL. Just something to consider in the grieving process, not to forget the stuff we felt before that as we tend to still shoulder their burdens even when they're long gone. It's OK to take some time to tend to your own needs.

Thanks, Maru. And very sound advice that I can absolutely relate to and take on board. I would have preferred to thank you privately as I have done with the last few people who've replied, as I don't want to be seen as milking the thread and constantly dragging it out into the spotlight. But your PMs are disabled. Still, many thanks for being so kind and empathetic.